Good Things Come to Those Who Wait

Ever notice how when you're out to dinner and the food is taking forever that it usually gets served when you've gone to the bathroom?

Well, that's sort of what happened to this blog.

I had every intention of keeping friends informed about good and bad dates with blogging about it. In fact, as you can see... I made a good effort. Then things got busy because of the holidays last year. Then I went on vacation. When I got back last January I planned to date like it was a second job. And I started to, and began thinking of creative ways to write about it.

Then I met C. The One.

And the rest, as they say, is history....

My road to love and happiness has been rocky, to say the least. But, I can say that Good Things do Come to Those Who Wait.

If you're like me, and looked for love in what seemed to be all the wrong places, just be patient...

6-Drink Jay

Background: Met "Jay" at a party prior to the holidays, and it seemed like we had hit it off. Kept in touch sporadically via text through the holidays. Chatted on the phone and set up Date #1.

Date #1: Met Jay at nearby restaurant/bar. I'm detoxing (i.e. no alcohol) for the month of January. Jay seems to have no problem with this. This is evident in that he has no problem drinking 6 pints of beer through the course of our date, while I match him glass for glass with H2O. Jay gets a little buzzed and I'm completely stone-cold sober. He tells me all about his growing up, his career in the military, the different careers he's had, etc. I notice that Jay is more of an extrovert than I thought he was as he also brings people around us into the conversation. As the date comes to an end, I notice that I wish Jay would stop talking.

This is not good.

I'm thinking I shouldn't see Jay again. A good friend of mine suggests I give him a second chance, so I do.

Date #2: Jay is 30 minutes late meeting me at the subway. ugh.. this is not good, as I am kind of a freak about punctuality. We take the train together to the spot I picked out. The date starts off pretty normal. Jay has 2 glasses of wine and by the end of the date he's also polished off his fourth beer. 6 seems to be his lucky number (or not). He also made a joke about me paying the bill since he picked up dinner last time.

Jay's a talker, that's for sure. He can go on and on. He also seems to have no filter. We disagreed on a pretty big topic, and it was all downhill from there. Then he was just annoying. I paid the tab and hailed my own cab home. Another one bites the dust.

Better luck next time.

I'm back and it's a new decade...

They say that love hits you when you least expect it. I'm calling their bluff. I've been sitting by living life and enjoying being single, and nothing has happened. I say if you want something, go out and get it. So that's what I'm going to do.

Since the break up date right before the beginning of the crazy holiday season, I have been avidly working it on TWO on-line dating sites. I've exchanged e-mails with a few here and there. I did go on a date with one fella who was nice, but I didn't feel the same sparks in person as I did when we e-mailed back and forth. He seems to have faded from my on-line/e-mail dating world, and I'm not really missing him, so that says something right there.

I also got slapped with the karma stick pretty badly. One potential suitor was a little aggressive on trying to meet up. He barely gave me enough time to respond to an e-mail before he sent another one. This started before the holidays and my gut was telling me to not bother. I decided to nip it in the bud when I got back from vacay, but you can't just say, my gut says you might be a creep! So, I lied. I told him I had re-connected with someone over the holidays and we were going to date exclusively. I wished him luck on his search and then "un-friended" him, if you will, so he could no longer contact me through the site.

Around the same time, I was talking to another guy --- we'll call him Don. Don and I exchanged a few e-mails and then one night we chatted on the phone. We had some things in common and he seemed like a nice, fun guy. We decided to meet on Friday of the next week for dinner -- it was a date. Four days later I get this on my dating site e-mail inbox:

"Hi. I can't meet up with you on Friday. I've been on a few dates with someone else and we decided to be exclusive. Good luck to you. Best, D"

Wow... Talk about INSTANT KARMA! Surely, he was telling the truth... right?

Honesty is still the best policy. Something to remember as we all venture into this new decade. New Year, New Decade.... New Love. Keeping my fingers crossed!